Talking About Relationships…

So… lets start from Sunday 26th April 2015. My pastor called few single brothers for a meeting with him, which of course i was included. He needed to talk to us and prepare us for marriage.

I’m gonna share few things he said and will also share my thoughts on relationships as well… ☺

Finding The Right Partner:

You need to understand this is the most important of it all (The foundation that carries the building) — You need to know the life you want to live and the future you want to have. So when you are picking a partner, it shouldn't be based on just looks or how flashy this person is… you need to know if this person fits the life you want to live or if this person wants similar things.

The Red and Green Flag:

if you have to be someone else or try so hard to keep someone in a relationship — please quit. That person isn’t meant for you. That's the Red Flag. If someone you are in a relationship kicks against values you hold strong or you just like similar things — That's a red flag. The reason is, don’t waste your time in something you know deep down, has no future. The green flag represents someone that shares same values, love similar things and above all fits into your life.

Building A Relationship or Starting One:

Except you are thinking of marriage, relationship is not for you. marriage on the other hand isn’t so much of a big deal, if you are a guy at age 27 — don’t think you are too young to be married, its just that Nigeria has a has a bad economy that has affected how we think. do you know in the western world, if at 28 you are not married for a guy, people are worried for you? so before you go into a relationship, 1st answer this question: Can i marry this person? and plan to marry and have kids on time. so if you marry at the age of 30 — when you are 40 your kids are within 10, 9, 8 and 7 that way at 50 they are already grown, to teenage age or their 20's. Trust me — you would wanna see your kids get married while you are still strong, so the earlier the better. Don't be 60+ seeing your 1st kid become a man or a woman. be a hippy grand dad… i wanna be that, so i think you should also think about it.

My pastor said something i wouldn't forget, he said: “Sometimes when you don’t seem to find the right person, don’t be in a haste, God might just be working on someone to fit into your life… especially when he has BIG plans with your life.

Love remains a beautiful thing… When you find it, tell it, so the world should know and take away “Plan B” — That’s the only way to save a relationship

I hope this little piece was able to answer, some questions…. -Harrison Akadidi… 

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